Mood music at funerals, wakes and celebration

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Music plays a key role in setting the mood at a funeral, wake or celebration. Choosing the right music highlights the character of your loved one - and helps brings a personal touch to how you say goodbye.

Music plays a very important role at funerals, and you should also consider what to play at the reception. If you want a party to celebrate your life or that of a loved one, then the music will be different again…after all, it will be the party of a lifetime! Below is some advice on music at the three different farewell events.

Funeral

The music, poetry and readings played depend on the type of funeral you want. Even if you don't want a sad and sombre occasion, your family and friends will be grieving, so the music and readings at the funeral should take this into account.

Bear in mind that the funeral service/ceremony is unlikely to last more than an hour. They are usually less as crematoria and cemeteries have shorter slots - usually 30 minutes. You can have double slots though this costs more money.

Church funerals can be longer with the agreement of the vicar. However, the amount of and type of secular music that will be allowed will be limited.

Woodland burials can last longer and can combine the funeral ceremony and a more celebratory event immediately after. You could include an outdoor party in the summer in the field or woodland where your body is buried as one of your funeral plan wishes. Also select the music and poetry for it. You may want a live band or singer(s) to perform, though it will have to be acoustic music, not amplified.

Reception, or wake

The funeral reception (often called the wake) is the gathering that follows the funeral, and usually held at a different venue to accommodate more people and have a less sombre atmosphere. While a small number of relatives and close friends might attend the funeral ceremony, a wider circle of people can be invited to the reception gathering.

Grieving is likely to give way to shared memories of the life that has ended. To create the right mood, select suitable music, videos, readings and the guests who you want to give their tributes to you or your loved one whose funeral you are organising.

Memorial party

Memorial parties are becoming popular. These are held at least a month after the death, or at a suitable anniversary such as the birthday of the parted.

So take the opportunity to plan the celebration of your life, or that of the deceased loved one.

If you want a party where everyone dances the night away, choose the right music. Or if you want them to enjoy an aria that was special to you, put that on the list. Add a particular comedy sketch if you want them to share your sense of humour.

A memorial party could also feature live music. Do you have close family members or friends who play in a band?  Think of the pieces you would like them to play, and put these decisions in your funeral plan so that your executor and family will organise the party you want.

Other things you might want to add to the arrangements are making it a charity fund raising event by having an entry ticket price, and including an auction.

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